Early to mid-2025 was challenging for me from a sensory heath perspective and I grudgingly made far-reaching life and business decisions to negate recurrence – I healed… in my opinion and that of the medical profession!
Ashamedly, in the last 10 weeks of 2025, I found many of these challenges subtly beginning to resurface… I was sacred!
Incapacity in whatever form is scary!
“Debra! You have all the tools, you are deeply and intimately connected to spirit!”
Every silent voice screamed at me, berated me!
“You are a natural healer, a spiritual healer, a teacher… get off your derrière and DO something, for pity’s sake!”
After much introspection, meditation, contemplation and far more acceptance than I thought I was capable of, I read these words by Dr Nick Neaves – “Gratitude Nic”
“MAY YOU BE STRONG ENOUGH TO BE GENTLE”
This resonated with me… searching, I realised true strength lies in authenticity, emotional intelligence and self-preservation rather than silent endurance.
Honesty over Façades:
True strength is the courage to admit when it’s not okay and you’re not okay, rather than wearing a mask of constant, exhausted perfection, a practised societal response.
Setting Boundaries:
Means honouring your own needs rather than placing the needs of everyone else above your own all the time. Protecting your energy and refusing to accept disrespect, dishonour, discomfort or demands on your psyche.
Vulnerability is Gentle Power:
Acknowledging hurt and disruption – whether emotional or physical, validated or NOT and allowing yourself to feel it as a form of resilience, NOT a weakness.
No matter how others may receive or perceive your ‘feeling it’!
This is about being STRONG enough to begin ‘GENTLE’ healing.
Release:
Strength is not measured by how much you can carry, but rather by how much you can gently release.
Asking for Help:
Recognising that you cannot do it all alone is a sign of wisdom and self-awareness.
NEWSFLASH! ‘Pretending’ is Not Strength:
It is emotionally exhausting and unsustainable. It turns ‘strength’ into a silent prison that prevents true and gentle healing. Burnout and health issues are a result of pretending, not speaking your truth and sacrificing yourself .
Strength is:
Graciously and gently accepting that there are bad days but not letting those days define you or impinge on the essence of who you are. It is having the courage to show up authentically as you are, on those days, even if this unintentionally alienates others.
That is GENTLE STRENGTH
My wish for you and for me in 2026
“MAY YOU BE STRONG ENOUGH TO BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF ”
All love Debra
